what i find so frustrating is that even with the noodz thing - he was just stirring up a friend. and he really does think he's just kidding. so on the one hand i feel he's not really hateful and nasty, but on the other he has so little clue of what is ok and really has crossed over into 'SO NOT OK' territory. and doesn't care. he doesn't care he's done that. i don't think he's evil. but i think he's ignorant and hurtful. and that's still not something i feel like i can handwave for fannish purposes. which of course you get that. i'm just processing "out loud" here, not trying to inform you or anything. :P

i will give it one last effort. in my head i can almost bend it that this is the bob who lived a different life and didn't get all that stupid stuff in his brain. he was in the weyr where he learnt a little more sense. :/? or something?
BLARGH!