Hope.

[maskitheclown]

This week for Idol, intrepia wrote about a girl named Hope who had killed herself over an issue of "sexting."
A person in my other fandom expressed her rage over the news-coverage fail and social blindness that happened here much more eloquently than I ever could, so I suggest you browse the comments.

This is the story *
Article *
NBC's piece *

And her parents are seriously a fucking prize.

In short:
Girl sends a picture of her breasts to a boy she likes.
Another girl finds it on his cellphone and distributes around.
Bullying starts.
School suspends the girl.
Parents ground the girl for a whole summer taking away her phone and internet.
Girl starts cutting. School makes her sign a contract saying she's not gonna do that again.
Bullying continues.
Girl kills herself.

Lesson to be learned here is apparently that texting photos of yourself naked is bad, and bullying is ok if you're bullying someone who totally had it coming. Also, technology is bad and there is absolutely no way for a grown person to influence a child, even their own.

I express my rage through sarcasm, I really don't want anyone to take that last paragraph seriously.

PS I'm sorry for spamming, but this needed a post of its own.

Comments

[maskitheclown.livejournal.com]

Yeah, the reactions of the adults in this story bug me the most. The school suspended her? Could that have condemned her more publicly? :(
It's like that "saying" - guns don't kill people, people kill people. Well, same goes for technology. It's about how you use it.
They make it sound like teen pregnancy etc. didn't exist before internet and TV.

I'm sorry your HS experience was crappy, but at least it got better. But you're right, that's not something everyone can do.
It really does come down to educating the bullies and teenagers generally, but that has 2 big problems standing in its way. 1. That would mean most parents would have to re-evaluate their idea of parenting and start actually spending time with their kids and listening to them speak and 2. a lot parents, no matter what they give out publicly, are actually bigots themselves, the kids are just more open about it.
(all my "a lot of" and "most of" are in no way statistically relevant :D )

[lstinhpfdm.livejournal.com]

It was more JR high (12-13) than H.S., but when we moved I got to leave my old reputation behind and reinvent myself at 16. It was very good for me.

Spending time with the kids can be hard, with often both parents working and kids buried in homework. Discussed this very topic with my 15 year old today, since you brought it up. Shockingly her first comment was that the girl deserved to be taunted. And at first I wanted to say that I have never heard of teens texting each other nude pictures around here, but I do remember the principle of my daughter jr. high suspending a boy for having naked pictures on his phone. (That had been confiscated because he was using during class.) And that particular school was doing a good job keeping the bullying to a minimum, the principle was honestly trying.

We also discussed this article the LA Times had today about "A right for students to be cruel" (http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-youtube-schools13-2009dec13,0,6677934.story). Adds a twist to the cyber bullying and punishment. It's about how students are suing and winning lawsuits saying schools are overstepping their bounds when disciplining kids for bullying while not on schools grounds. I do agree with the judges here because our 1st amendment rights in the U.S can't be selectively enforced. This is a bit different from forwarding naked pictures, because US Law considers those pictures pornographic. Makes the whole disciplining the bullies challenging.

[maskitheclown.livejournal.com]

:) Awesome.

atuff like that is happening around here too but it's not that special. I mean, if not for texting, they would find another way to do it. When I was in elementary, the last few years, we didn't have cellphones but there were girls who got into bathrooms with guys and let them touch their breasts.

Wow. Yeah, someone mentioned somewher today how, if these kids were grownups, they would be considered criminals, so why is it any different now that they are kids, abusing other kids?
Hm, but... ok she's free to speak what she wants but... wouldn't telling someone you think they're hot and should wear shorter skirts etc at work fall under sexual harassment despite freedom of speech? Which means adjustments can be made if there's will?